5 Ways To Deal With Family On Holiday's

With the holiday's approaching, some are dreading having to deal with family. It happens to all of us, we all have a family member we don't like to deal with, your not alone. I made the decision when my kids were young, to start my own Thanksgiving traditions. I hated the family drama and I didn't want my kids around it. I started staying home and cooking myself, with my kids helping.

I was tired of negative comments and feeling angry or frustrated every holiday. A friend asked me, why I kept attending family functions if it made me unhappy. I gave it thought and realized, who cares if I make someone else mad, by saving myself from being miserable. I am picky what family functions I attend and I learned to speak up, apologize and say, I have other plans.

Here are five ways, I have learned to get through the holiday's and attending family functions. I remember a time, I would arrive and the talk would be how thin I was. As I got older, I gained weight and when the conversation comes up about someone's weight, I turn the conversation around, by asking the person something about their life. I try and talk about positive events and get rid of any negative conversation.
Here are my five suggestions:
  1. Do your own thing and don't attend family functions.
  2. Start your own traditions that make you happy.
  3. Turn dreadful conversation around, ask them something about themselves, to get the heat off of you.
  4. Bring up a good memory, talk about a happy time, help people remember the good times and forget the bad. 
  5. Be the positive one, eliminate negative energy by being positive. 
No matter what you decide to do, how you handle the holiday's is entirely up to you. You make the choice to be around family, stay home alone or simply start your own traditions. If your family gets angry with you for not showing up on the holiday's, let them know what it is about family functions you don't like, maybe they will change it. The choice is yours and only you can decide how you want your holiday's to go. 

Everyone Have A Happy Thanksgiving!

Bobbie
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