Man Code- Do You Meet His Criteria ?
So you met Mr.Sexy; he's attractive, smart, funny and successful. Your pulse starts racing when you see him and you start asking yourself if he's the one for you. You make eye contact with him and feel the sensation shooting through you, or feel you can get lost in his eyes forever.
Admit it ladies, this has happened to you once or maybe a few times in your life. Then we have disillusions in our head, of spending the rest of your life with this guy, before we even have a first date. The real disappointment always comes, when they aren't interested in us and go the other way.
We then beat ourselves up, wondering 'why wasn't he interested in me'. Then the next step comes into play, we try to be what they want us to be and end up losing our own self and forget our own dreams. Myself, I think it's because, we all have to want something that we can't have, at one point or another.
We all know, most all women, start planning what their wedding will be like as a young girl. We all want to grow up and marry our Prince Charming, some of us do and some of us don't. We set ourselves up for failure by creating a list, of what the guy for us is supposed to be like.
The funny thing about men, they do the same thing. Men have that male ego and they will never admit they have a "Criteria" of what a woman, he's going to be with has to be like. It goes something like this:
1. Looks-she has to be pretty/good looking
2. Big Breasts
3. Smoking hot body
4. Must be successful
5. Must be perfect- add in drinker/non drinker,smoker/non smoker
Don't forget to add in the, must like sports and everything that they like to do. What you have is yet another, criteria of setting themselves up for disappointment.
The other side of looking at this is, if men and woman didn't have unrealistic expectations of what the "one for me" has to be like, divorce and break ups would never happen. Everyone would have somebody and the world would be a happier place, full of only love.
I was inspired to write this post, because I recently met a really 'hot' guy. I will call him Mr.Sexy. I won't deny that I'm very attracted to this guy, along with many other women. He's smart, sophisticated, successful and has a smoking hot body.
I'm not afraid to take chances, but I know when I'm out of my league. Yes, I caught myself flirting with Mr.Sexy, then made myself walk away. Yes, I had a moment of staring into his eyes and feeling a spark, then made myself walk away.
Yes, I found myself wanting to have a date with him, gazing the stars and watching the sunset in the mountains, while sipping a bottle of good wine. Then I made myself change my way of thinking, get back into the moment and walk away.
Why do I walk away? Because I have had other Mr. Sexy's before. I learned my lesson. The last thing that I want, is to waste my time on another man, that I would not be able to meet his criteria list. I'm willing to give up a bad habit here and there; for someone else, but I'm not willing to change myself, to be what someone else would want me to be.
I know I shouldn't judge Mr.Sexy, maybe he's one of the rare men that aren't looking for a woman to meet his criteria. I'm sure that because of his profession, he has his own criteria list. I know, again I'm judging and I shouldn't.
Men also rate women on a scale of 1 to 10. I'm not a 10 and I'm okay with that. I have even been told that I could not have a guy, because I wasn't a 10.
I don't want to have to be someone's illusion of what a 10 is supposed to be. I guess that's why I didn't marry Vin Diesel and don't worry Vin, I'm okay with that, you have the one for you and I wish you all the happiness in the world.
Ladies, I guess my point is this, if he has a criteria of what you are supposed to be like and you know you don't meet that criteria, just walk away and move on.
I learned to stop letting myself get my heart broken, by not letting myself want someone that I know, that I can't have. In the mean time, I will admire and enjoy the eye candy, when I come in contact with Mr.Sexy. I just won't allow myself, to have disillusions of anything ever happening between him and I.
Guys, please rethink your list, there is no such thing as a perfect person, in any way shape or form. As for the stupid scale of 1 to 10, try asking yourself what a woman would rate you. If you would rate yourself as a 5, would you be expecting a 10. Just saying...
Everyone be happy!
Bobbie
XoXoXo
Admit it ladies, this has happened to you once or maybe a few times in your life. Then we have disillusions in our head, of spending the rest of your life with this guy, before we even have a first date. The real disappointment always comes, when they aren't interested in us and go the other way.
We then beat ourselves up, wondering 'why wasn't he interested in me'. Then the next step comes into play, we try to be what they want us to be and end up losing our own self and forget our own dreams. Myself, I think it's because, we all have to want something that we can't have, at one point or another.
We all know, most all women, start planning what their wedding will be like as a young girl. We all want to grow up and marry our Prince Charming, some of us do and some of us don't. We set ourselves up for failure by creating a list, of what the guy for us is supposed to be like.
The funny thing about men, they do the same thing. Men have that male ego and they will never admit they have a "Criteria" of what a woman, he's going to be with has to be like. It goes something like this:
1. Looks-she has to be pretty/good looking
2. Big Breasts
3. Smoking hot body
4. Must be successful
5. Must be perfect- add in drinker/non drinker,smoker/non smoker
Don't forget to add in the, must like sports and everything that they like to do. What you have is yet another, criteria of setting themselves up for disappointment.
The other side of looking at this is, if men and woman didn't have unrealistic expectations of what the "one for me" has to be like, divorce and break ups would never happen. Everyone would have somebody and the world would be a happier place, full of only love.
I was inspired to write this post, because I recently met a really 'hot' guy. I will call him Mr.Sexy. I won't deny that I'm very attracted to this guy, along with many other women. He's smart, sophisticated, successful and has a smoking hot body.
I'm not afraid to take chances, but I know when I'm out of my league. Yes, I caught myself flirting with Mr.Sexy, then made myself walk away. Yes, I had a moment of staring into his eyes and feeling a spark, then made myself walk away.
Yes, I found myself wanting to have a date with him, gazing the stars and watching the sunset in the mountains, while sipping a bottle of good wine. Then I made myself change my way of thinking, get back into the moment and walk away.
Why do I walk away? Because I have had other Mr. Sexy's before. I learned my lesson. The last thing that I want, is to waste my time on another man, that I would not be able to meet his criteria list. I'm willing to give up a bad habit here and there; for someone else, but I'm not willing to change myself, to be what someone else would want me to be.
I know I shouldn't judge Mr.Sexy, maybe he's one of the rare men that aren't looking for a woman to meet his criteria. I'm sure that because of his profession, he has his own criteria list. I know, again I'm judging and I shouldn't.
Men also rate women on a scale of 1 to 10. I'm not a 10 and I'm okay with that. I have even been told that I could not have a guy, because I wasn't a 10.
I don't want to have to be someone's illusion of what a 10 is supposed to be. I guess that's why I didn't marry Vin Diesel and don't worry Vin, I'm okay with that, you have the one for you and I wish you all the happiness in the world.
Ladies, I guess my point is this, if he has a criteria of what you are supposed to be like and you know you don't meet that criteria, just walk away and move on.
I learned to stop letting myself get my heart broken, by not letting myself want someone that I know, that I can't have. In the mean time, I will admire and enjoy the eye candy, when I come in contact with Mr.Sexy. I just won't allow myself, to have disillusions of anything ever happening between him and I.
Guys, please rethink your list, there is no such thing as a perfect person, in any way shape or form. As for the stupid scale of 1 to 10, try asking yourself what a woman would rate you. If you would rate yourself as a 5, would you be expecting a 10. Just saying...
Everyone be happy!
Bobbie
XoXoXo
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