Is there Dating After 40? Other than the Internet?
Is there dating after the age of 40? Sure, there can be and it can be really scary. I have been single and have stayed away from dating and relationships, for the past four years. Yes, it was my choice, because I wanted to rediscover myself.
This is the longest I have gone in my life, since I started dating in high school, of being single. I needed to give myself the time and space, to regroup and get to know myself again. I needed to shed everyone else's version of me, that they thought I should be.
I have used the time to rediscover my passions in life and figure out, what I like and don't like. You know when you become involved with someone else, you take up other interests or habits. Over the years, that all adds up and sometimes, taking the time to shed the past, is the best start ever.
I often get asked stupid questions, on why I'm single and what's wrong with me. I assure you, I'm alright and nothing is wrong with me, I'm single because I chose to be. Really, why can't a woman be single, without something being wrong with her?
I have asked myself, If I'm truly ready to jump back into the dating game again. To find out if I am, I had to decide where I would begin meeting someone new. I rarely go to bars and would not want someone that I met in a bar anyway, so that's out.
Unless you are looking for a one night stand, with someone you will never see again, avoid bar room romance's. After working in the Bar and Casino Industry for fifteen years, I learned fast, alcohol induced relationships never work out. I hate drama and bars lead to more drama, then most things.
I decided to try the internet dating scene, to see what it was like. The writer in me, instantly, did the research on internet dating sights, to see what options are out there. After checking out four sights, I subscribed to Zoosk, because it was more affordable and offered a month to month basis, to subscribe.
Happy to say, my subscription expires today and I will not continue it. Do people really think about how they approach other people on these sights? I was asked by one, in a first message, to give him a complete detailed description of myself and my life. I don't care to share my life story with someone that I don't know, so I blocked him. That was to much, to soon, to fast.
Another sent me his first message and gave me his cell phone number, telling me to call or text him. I answered his question by replying to the message. I explained in my message, that I'm new to this. His next response to me was, demanding me to call or text him and not message him on the sight.
I laughed at the fact that he thought he could demand me to call him, I don't even know him. If I would have called or texted him, he would have had my phone number and I wasn't willing to give my number out yet. I responded by wishing him all the best in his search for love and made it clear, we were probably looking for different results, through the dating sight.
My third laugh came from a guy, that asked me to kidnap him and keep him for a weekend. I know that I definitely do not want to invite someone I haven't really talked to, on the internet, into my home yet. This came in his second message, the first one said "You are beautiful, how are you doing?"
The thing that I found amusing and a little scary, is when you don't respond to a persons message and they keep sending, message after message. News flash: If a person does not respond to your first two messages, they aren't interested, move on please.
I have to say, I have read more stupid approaches over the past month, than I could have ever imagined. It was funny and scary at the same time. Some of these guys use a 'no holds barred approach', others are still using a grade school approach, maybe there is a reason that they are single...just saying.
Out of the four dating sights I researched, I was more impressed with the Zoosk sight, than match.com, eharmony or my favorite title of all, dateamillionaire.com. The sight was easier to use and more affordable.
One road leads to another, so I decided my next Blog post will be '5 Tips on Internet Dating'. Yes, I am going to offer a girl's advice to these sorry ass souls, using really bad approaches, on Internet dating sights, looking for love....or is it sex?
In the mean time, will I meet someone and fall in love again? Well, I will leave that up to fate for now. I'm busy with many things at the moment and planning my trip to Seattle in two weeks, yes I will be sharing my Seattle experience with you, to help us all discover the Seattle area.
Everyone have an AWESOME week!
Bobbie
XoXoXo
This is the longest I have gone in my life, since I started dating in high school, of being single. I needed to give myself the time and space, to regroup and get to know myself again. I needed to shed everyone else's version of me, that they thought I should be.
I have used the time to rediscover my passions in life and figure out, what I like and don't like. You know when you become involved with someone else, you take up other interests or habits. Over the years, that all adds up and sometimes, taking the time to shed the past, is the best start ever.
I often get asked stupid questions, on why I'm single and what's wrong with me. I assure you, I'm alright and nothing is wrong with me, I'm single because I chose to be. Really, why can't a woman be single, without something being wrong with her?
I have asked myself, If I'm truly ready to jump back into the dating game again. To find out if I am, I had to decide where I would begin meeting someone new. I rarely go to bars and would not want someone that I met in a bar anyway, so that's out.
Unless you are looking for a one night stand, with someone you will never see again, avoid bar room romance's. After working in the Bar and Casino Industry for fifteen years, I learned fast, alcohol induced relationships never work out. I hate drama and bars lead to more drama, then most things.
I decided to try the internet dating scene, to see what it was like. The writer in me, instantly, did the research on internet dating sights, to see what options are out there. After checking out four sights, I subscribed to Zoosk, because it was more affordable and offered a month to month basis, to subscribe.
Happy to say, my subscription expires today and I will not continue it. Do people really think about how they approach other people on these sights? I was asked by one, in a first message, to give him a complete detailed description of myself and my life. I don't care to share my life story with someone that I don't know, so I blocked him. That was to much, to soon, to fast.
Another sent me his first message and gave me his cell phone number, telling me to call or text him. I answered his question by replying to the message. I explained in my message, that I'm new to this. His next response to me was, demanding me to call or text him and not message him on the sight.
I laughed at the fact that he thought he could demand me to call him, I don't even know him. If I would have called or texted him, he would have had my phone number and I wasn't willing to give my number out yet. I responded by wishing him all the best in his search for love and made it clear, we were probably looking for different results, through the dating sight.
My third laugh came from a guy, that asked me to kidnap him and keep him for a weekend. I know that I definitely do not want to invite someone I haven't really talked to, on the internet, into my home yet. This came in his second message, the first one said "You are beautiful, how are you doing?"
The thing that I found amusing and a little scary, is when you don't respond to a persons message and they keep sending, message after message. News flash: If a person does not respond to your first two messages, they aren't interested, move on please.
I have to say, I have read more stupid approaches over the past month, than I could have ever imagined. It was funny and scary at the same time. Some of these guys use a 'no holds barred approach', others are still using a grade school approach, maybe there is a reason that they are single...just saying.
Out of the four dating sights I researched, I was more impressed with the Zoosk sight, than match.com, eharmony or my favorite title of all, dateamillionaire.com. The sight was easier to use and more affordable.
One road leads to another, so I decided my next Blog post will be '5 Tips on Internet Dating'. Yes, I am going to offer a girl's advice to these sorry ass souls, using really bad approaches, on Internet dating sights, looking for love....or is it sex?
In the mean time, will I meet someone and fall in love again? Well, I will leave that up to fate for now. I'm busy with many things at the moment and planning my trip to Seattle in two weeks, yes I will be sharing my Seattle experience with you, to help us all discover the Seattle area.
Everyone have an AWESOME week!
Bobbie
XoXoXo
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