Life Happens

Over the past few weeks, I have thought about all of the plans, that I have made for myself. Yes, I was one of the crazy girls, in my youth, that thought I could plan my life. As a teenager, I thought if I had a timeline and a plan of when, I would get married, have kids, etc. That my life would turnout just the way I planned.

Life happened and my life has not gone, the way I planned it to. As an adult, I have finally came to accept, that life will never turn out as planned. Planning life, is kind of like setting your self up for failure or disappointment. 

Sure we should all set goals and work to achieve them, but we should be realistic that life and fate may have a different plan for us. No one can predict the hard balls that life, will throw at us. There is no crystal ball to look into, that will show us how to plan life. 

My most recent plan, was to sell one of my Screenplay's and to make it the top ten, in the Industry Insider Screenwriting contest. I had submitted two entries to the contest and felt confident, that I would make the top ten.

My plan for selling my completed Screenplay, was to take the money and pay for my daughter's wedding, at a Disney resort in Hawaii. I want to make her dream wedding a reality, it was my plan.  

Three days before the top ten were announced, my 86 year old grandmother, that raised me and has been my mom, became seriously ill. As she nears the end of her journey in life, life again has proved to me, it will not go as planned.

My grandmother never planned on having eleven children, but she did. She never planned on having to raise me and my cousins as her own children, but she did. My grandmother planned on living until she was 100 years old and being physically active until then. Life proved to us again, it will not go as planned. 

As I worried about my momma being ill, I was stressing about making the top ten and not being able to write, because of what I was being faced with. The winners were announced and I was not on the list again. Maybe I missed my calling in life or maybe it's not my time, to sell a Screenplay. 

I have accepted that I can not control what happens in life. Life will happen, no matter how much anyone plans for it. I never planned on raising my two children alone, but I did. I never planned on being single at this age in life, but I am. 

As I sit at an almost stand still, waiting to see what life will throw at me next, I have no plan to plan. I turn forty four years old this week and I can say, my life has not turned out the way I planned it to, because life happens. 

What was your life plan? Has it gone exactly, the way you planned it to?

Everyone Have a Great Week!

Bobbie
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