How I Survived as a Single Mom: Part 4
I felt as if I had gone from doing 150 miles per hour, to ten. Sitting at a desk all day long, wearing a headset on my head was driving me crazy. I started working in retail when I was 15, I learned Customer Service fast. I was able to deal with a raging customer, face to face, yelling at me. I couldn't handle having someone yelling at me with a headset on my head.
My daughter was looking for her first job and through an acquaintance that I had from the Casino, she was hired at a Pretzel shop in the mall. I had gotten a surprising phone call from the manager, the owner wanted to meet me and had a job offer for me.
I knew that sitting at a desk was driving me crazy, so I called and met with him. I was offered $45,000.00 per year to manage his Pizza place. I was happy, gave my notice and went to work for him right away. The first week was fine, I was learning everything about Pizza. The second week, he changed and decided that he wanted me working from 8 am to midnight, six days per week.
I tried to explain to him, that I still had my son at home and couldn't get a babysitter for him, for that many hours per week. The man wasn't willing to budge and after working for two weeks straight, he wanted me to work Easter Sunday, to do inventory, so I quit.
I was unemployed and scared, I knew everything that I didn't want to go back to. I wanted to keep moving forward, so I hit it hard, job hunting. One of the other Casino owners that I knew, had an opening and the pay was crap, but I took it. You got to do, what you got to do, when you are the sole provider for your family.
The economy was going bad and nobody was hiring. The manager had came in on my shift, drunk and started trying to bully me. I told her I would give her what she wanted and I quit. I was the only employee there, that wasn't related to her and she had another daughter, that she wanted working there.
I contacted the owner and let him know what happened. I was back to job hunting again. I found a part time bookkeeping job for another Casino and the pay was minimum wage, I was getting no where fast. I ended up taking a second job, working the graveyard shift at another casino.
I knew that I needed some me time and decided to go visit my relatives for a weekend. As I was driving around, I saw help wanted signs posted all over, so I decided to move there. I knew how the bad economy had hit Missoula and I wanted a fresh start.
I saw an ad, for Phlebotomy school, so I refinanced my car, to get the money to pay for it. I was hoping that I could start fresh in a positive direction. I took the class, got the certification, then took the required CPR classes and got certified for that as well. I applied all over Missoula, as a Phlebotomist and could not get a job.
I drove back to Kalispell and started applying for jobs all over. I decided to throw caution to the wind and take a leap of faith, borrowed the money to move, packed up our stuff and moved to Kalispell.
We moved into an apartment and my mamma, told me she would help me until I was on my feet. I spent my first week, unpacking and trying to settle in.
The second week, I started job hunting and then, two of the major businesses that employed everyone, announced that they were shutting down. The bad economy had hit Kalispell and the job market again, became a battle. I ended up going to work at another Casino, the last place that I wanted to be, was where I ended up.
I ended up involved with one of my early childhood friends. I thought I was finally ready to be in a relationship and I wanted to be happy. This was a first for me, letting someone come around my kids and be in my home. I always tried to keep everything separate, I didn't want my kids to become attached, to someone that wasn't going to stick around.
The problem was, it was with the wrong person at the right time. After a month, I learned that he was still in a relationship with someone else. I was trying to focus on getting a job and getting on my feet. I finally wrote a letter to his girlfriend, put it in a Christmas card and put it in hr mail box. I told her all about the thing (I won't call it a relationship) that I had had with him, for the past several months. He wasn't happy that he finally got caught, but he finally left me alone.
I worked at that Casino for three years. The schedule worked for me and I was home on weekends. I always tried to keep my kids involved in sports and extra curricular activities, to keep them on a positive path. I kept trying to push my son into sports and it was a challenge to realize, he had other interests.
My daughter didn't want to move to Kalispell and wanted to stay in Missoula with her grandma, to graduate. She was seventeen years old, so I let her make her own decision, I knew she was safe, with my family, though it was extremely hard on me, not having her with me. I still called her on the phone and kept an eye on her grades. In 2010, she graduated high school and went on to college.
I had to accept that my daughter was growing and it was hard for me to do. I continued to try and help my son discover his interests, the things that he would enjoy doing. Playing football or baseball was not his interest at all, I accepted it and supported him in choir, he loved to sing. I made him my focus and spent my weekends trying to do fun things, to spend quality time with him.
I was also trying to discover my own interests and decide what I really wanted to do. I have always loved movies, since I was a small child. A friend had asked me, why don't you write movies? I hadn't thought about doing something like that, since I was in high school. I had wrote short plays for different classes that I had taken and wrote, produced and directed a commercial for a Drama Class that I took once and I started remembering, how much I loved it.
I applied to the New York Film Academy and was accepted for the one year Online Screen Writing program. I was so excited to go home at Christmas and tell my Mamma, that I was going to finally do something that I was passionate about, I was going to learn how to write movies. I was scheduled to start in February and life decided to throw me yet another hard ball. My uncle, who was more like my brother, passed away on January 26th.
This was the first person, this close to me to die and I was not coping with it well, at all. What really turned me off, was the student adviser that I had been assigned. When I spoke to him on the phone, he reminded me of my age and by his voice tone and smirking, I could tell, he was telling me I was to old to do this. I let it get to me and discourage me and decided not to go through with it.
Everyone have a Great Week!
Bobbie
XoXoXo
My daughter was looking for her first job and through an acquaintance that I had from the Casino, she was hired at a Pretzel shop in the mall. I had gotten a surprising phone call from the manager, the owner wanted to meet me and had a job offer for me.
I knew that sitting at a desk was driving me crazy, so I called and met with him. I was offered $45,000.00 per year to manage his Pizza place. I was happy, gave my notice and went to work for him right away. The first week was fine, I was learning everything about Pizza. The second week, he changed and decided that he wanted me working from 8 am to midnight, six days per week.
I tried to explain to him, that I still had my son at home and couldn't get a babysitter for him, for that many hours per week. The man wasn't willing to budge and after working for two weeks straight, he wanted me to work Easter Sunday, to do inventory, so I quit.
I was unemployed and scared, I knew everything that I didn't want to go back to. I wanted to keep moving forward, so I hit it hard, job hunting. One of the other Casino owners that I knew, had an opening and the pay was crap, but I took it. You got to do, what you got to do, when you are the sole provider for your family.
The economy was going bad and nobody was hiring. The manager had came in on my shift, drunk and started trying to bully me. I told her I would give her what she wanted and I quit. I was the only employee there, that wasn't related to her and she had another daughter, that she wanted working there.
I contacted the owner and let him know what happened. I was back to job hunting again. I found a part time bookkeeping job for another Casino and the pay was minimum wage, I was getting no where fast. I ended up taking a second job, working the graveyard shift at another casino.
I knew that I needed some me time and decided to go visit my relatives for a weekend. As I was driving around, I saw help wanted signs posted all over, so I decided to move there. I knew how the bad economy had hit Missoula and I wanted a fresh start.
I saw an ad, for Phlebotomy school, so I refinanced my car, to get the money to pay for it. I was hoping that I could start fresh in a positive direction. I took the class, got the certification, then took the required CPR classes and got certified for that as well. I applied all over Missoula, as a Phlebotomist and could not get a job.
I drove back to Kalispell and started applying for jobs all over. I decided to throw caution to the wind and take a leap of faith, borrowed the money to move, packed up our stuff and moved to Kalispell.
We moved into an apartment and my mamma, told me she would help me until I was on my feet. I spent my first week, unpacking and trying to settle in.
The second week, I started job hunting and then, two of the major businesses that employed everyone, announced that they were shutting down. The bad economy had hit Kalispell and the job market again, became a battle. I ended up going to work at another Casino, the last place that I wanted to be, was where I ended up.
I ended up involved with one of my early childhood friends. I thought I was finally ready to be in a relationship and I wanted to be happy. This was a first for me, letting someone come around my kids and be in my home. I always tried to keep everything separate, I didn't want my kids to become attached, to someone that wasn't going to stick around.
The problem was, it was with the wrong person at the right time. After a month, I learned that he was still in a relationship with someone else. I was trying to focus on getting a job and getting on my feet. I finally wrote a letter to his girlfriend, put it in a Christmas card and put it in hr mail box. I told her all about the thing (I won't call it a relationship) that I had had with him, for the past several months. He wasn't happy that he finally got caught, but he finally left me alone.
I worked at that Casino for three years. The schedule worked for me and I was home on weekends. I always tried to keep my kids involved in sports and extra curricular activities, to keep them on a positive path. I kept trying to push my son into sports and it was a challenge to realize, he had other interests.
My daughter didn't want to move to Kalispell and wanted to stay in Missoula with her grandma, to graduate. She was seventeen years old, so I let her make her own decision, I knew she was safe, with my family, though it was extremely hard on me, not having her with me. I still called her on the phone and kept an eye on her grades. In 2010, she graduated high school and went on to college.
I had to accept that my daughter was growing and it was hard for me to do. I continued to try and help my son discover his interests, the things that he would enjoy doing. Playing football or baseball was not his interest at all, I accepted it and supported him in choir, he loved to sing. I made him my focus and spent my weekends trying to do fun things, to spend quality time with him.
I was also trying to discover my own interests and decide what I really wanted to do. I have always loved movies, since I was a small child. A friend had asked me, why don't you write movies? I hadn't thought about doing something like that, since I was in high school. I had wrote short plays for different classes that I had taken and wrote, produced and directed a commercial for a Drama Class that I took once and I started remembering, how much I loved it.
I applied to the New York Film Academy and was accepted for the one year Online Screen Writing program. I was so excited to go home at Christmas and tell my Mamma, that I was going to finally do something that I was passionate about, I was going to learn how to write movies. I was scheduled to start in February and life decided to throw me yet another hard ball. My uncle, who was more like my brother, passed away on January 26th.
This was the first person, this close to me to die and I was not coping with it well, at all. What really turned me off, was the student adviser that I had been assigned. When I spoke to him on the phone, he reminded me of my age and by his voice tone and smirking, I could tell, he was telling me I was to old to do this. I let it get to me and discourage me and decided not to go through with it.
Everyone have a Great Week!
Bobbie
XoXoXo
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