5 Tips: On Creating Your Online Dating Profile

Getting back to the dating scene is complicated, especially when you have been sitting on the sidelines for awhile and are considering,  jumping back into the dating game.  Yes, I am learning this from experience.

People seem to prefer online dating as the alternative to going to bars, to meet people. Though we know, bar room relationships, rarely work out anyway, online dating can be just as scary. As I was doing my research on dating websites, I noticed how scary some people's profiles really are.

I decided to pick five things, I saw in profiles, that I thought people should change. If you haven't been getting any bites, consider revamping your profile, you may be scaring the fish away.  Here are my five suggestions:


  1. Profile Pictures: Post a picture of yourself alone. Yes kids are cute, but they don't need their picture posted on a dating website. You want someone to date you, not your child. Pick a picture that compliments you and won't make you look stupid or scary. 
  2.  About You:  Keep this simple and to the point. You don't need someone that you may or may not ever meet, knowing your life story. You want someone that is going to want to spend the time, getting to know you and discovering things about you. 
  3. Be Honest: If you hate to cook, don't list it as a hobby. If you hate Yoga, don't say that you love it and will take classes. Be clear about what you are interested in and what you are looking for. You won't find someone that you are compatible with, if you don't have anything in common.  
  4. Less is More: If you have ten kids, say you have ten kids, just don't tell about each individual child. If you have had a horrible break up and that is the reason you are single, there's no need to give the details, save that for another time and another place. Don't give out every detail about yourself and be cautious about what details you do tell.
  5. Protect Your Privacy: Don't give out your address, bank account information, Social Security number or any other information, that will jeopardize your privacy. There are scammers out there that will try and prey on your loneliness, just to rob you blind, protect your identity. Most importantly, do not invite anyone into your home, until you have met them and feel safe having them there. When you invite someone in your home, you invite them into your life and they will know where to find you. 
I read through several profiles, on several dating sights and was blown away, at the information people were giving. There were a few profiles I barely read, because they were very long and more like a personal essay. 

Most of the profile pictures that I saw, were of people and their kids. I think, parents need to be more protective and avoid posting the pictures of their kids. We are all proud of our kids and want to show them off, just don't do it on a dating sight, you can always share pictures later. 

If you aren't getting someone to respond to you, after the first three times of saying hello, move on. There is nothing more annoying than a repeat offender, that won't move on, when you aren't responding to them. 

Have fun with it, you can chat and get to know a person and it may lead to love. Just be yourself , be honest and know your limits. Please be safe. As for me, I don't think that dating sights are for me, I prefer the "Old Fashioned" way. Happy searching, I hope you all find love and happiness!

Everyone have a great week!

Bobbie
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