Bobbie Blodgett

Calling all women; how about a show of hands, for all of us women, that are tired of seeing every cover and every post of Glamour and Cosmopolitan , be about "How to Please your Man in Bed". Don't get me wrong, I love both of these magazines and have been an avid reader of both. The times have changed and this is a woman's world that we live in, have the magazines kept up? By reading the print on every post and every cover, I say no. There are just as many relationships that fail, because a woman's needs are not being fulfilled. This day in age; we are constantly spending our time juggling, trying to figure out how to balance, having careers, raising kids and keeping our men happy.  So mush so, we end up make ourselves miserable. We have sexual needs, just as much as men do. Society has made it all about a man's needs and for what? Because magazines have preyed on women's insecurities, just to sell an issue. Women stray in relationships, as we...

I have always been in love with Christmas, it's my favorite time of the year. Everything always seems so magical, from the Winter snow, to feeling the love in the air. It's  the time of the year, when people are more happy. Maybe because they are giving more and giving, makes us feel good. A time to help others, that may be faced with hard times, so they can have a Christmas also. It all begins the day after Thanksgiving, when the shoppers go crazy, hunting for the best prices. Conquering the retail madness, to full-fill the letters to Santa and make Christmas wishes come true. Presents are wrapped, the Christmas Tree's go up and the spirit of the season emerges all around us. Taking the time, to sing a classic Christmas Carol, like Deck The Halls and Silent Night. It's the simple little things that connect each thing to Christmas day. The little things, such as driving through town and seeing everything decorated and lit up. It's sledding and hot Chocol...

Dear Santa, I know that I have been a good girl this year, so maybe you could be nice to me. I don't ask for much in life and I always try to help others when I can. By now, I hope that I have been taken off of your naughty list and moved over to the nice list. I know it took along time for me to learn my lesson's in life, but I'm still learning every day. For example, I finally gave up in believing in fairy tales, true love and happily ever after. I accepted the reality; that Super Hero's are only in the movie's and that Batman, Iron Man and Hercules, will never be my Prince Charming. They are all like a Transformer, a fake toy, made by someone's illusion, to fill us full of false hope, only to blow up our dreams. I gave up day dreaming, that Keanu Reeves will be wrapped up in a big red bow, sitting next to my tree, on Christmas morning.  I have learned my lesson on falling for the sexy, bad boy types that I see on the Big Screen, such as Vin Diesel. ...

I was inspired to write this post, as I was looking around me and listening to people. I just turned 45 and I was taking that walk down memory lane, as most people do when we have a birthday. In life we have the choice, to fear getting old or to embrace it. I think we all at one point or another, have to stop and reflect on where we are in life, where we have been and embrace or endure what we have been through. It teaches us that we can change and grow as people. Life makes us walk through many lights, the bright and the dark. Myself, I learned to have Faith and to turn to God in my moments of darkness and to pray my way back into the light. We all have moments of darkness, in one way or another. Maybe it's God's way of reminding us, that not every day will be Sunshine, Rainbows and clear blue Skies. We just have to learn to make it through the Storms and the dark cloudy days. What I find the most saddening, are the people that live in darkness. You know the ones, they ...

We all know what a slump is, we all end up there, in one way or another. The most challenging thing, is getting ourselves out of that slump and back on track. This has been my challenge, over the past two months, since empty nest syndrome kicked in, when my youngest child left home. I do believe it all starts with that ugly word--PROCRASTINATION! We procrastinate things and it causes us to slip into a slump. I knew that I needed to write a post for my blog, yet I procrastinated and put it off.  I know that I should do Yoga or some sort of exercise, to keep myself in shape, then I don't. I think about eating healthy foods, because it's better for my health, then I grab a Burger for lunch. I knew I had to get 125 pages of my latest Screenplay written, because I had already paid my entry fee and I didn't. I think procrastination happens when we are on over load. I personally, get to much going on at once and then, I get off track and end up in a slump. Instead of doin...

Yes, it's a known fact that we are moody, it's really not our fault, we are controlled by hormones. Yes, we may or may not have difficulties, making men understand what makes us happy. We are women and we deal with so much, raising kids, running a household and working full time jobs. On top of all of that, we are expected to keep a man happy! For most of us women; it becomes easy for us to forget, what makes us happy, we are busy putting everything and everyone else before ourselves. Sometimes, we simply forget to make ourselves happy. Throw in a messed up Thyroid, on top of the hormones and we can become dis-functional, emotional creatures. We don't come with a 'How To Operate' instructional manual, just as men don't come with a 'Fact Tag', to tell us what we are getting, when we pick a man. 'Warning Labels' are never included when it comes to people, it's all part of the fun, of the 'Game of Life'. Most of us women, really a...

Getting back to the dating scene is complicated, especially when you have been sitting on the sidelines for awhile and are considering,  jumping back into the dating game.  Yes, I am learning this from experience. People seem to prefer online dating as the alternative to going to bars, to meet people. Though we know, bar room relationships, rarely work out anyway, online dating can be just as scary. As I was doing my research on dating websites, I noticed how scary some people's profiles really are. I decided to pick five things, I saw in profiles, that I thought people should change. If you haven't been getting any bites, consider revamping your profile, you may be scaring the fish away.  Here are my five suggestions: Profile Pictures : Post a picture of yourself alone. Yes kids are cute, but they don't need their picture posted on a dating website. You want someone to date you, not your child. Pick a picture that compliments you and won't make you look stupid...

When most people hear the words "Domestic Violence", they assume that some guy, beat up some woman. In most cases that is true, but it goes both ways, men are victim's of this also. I never thought about it being that way, until I witnessed it first hand.  One of my uncles was involved in a relationship, with a woman that suffers from Bi Polar disease. What he went through, was unreal. There was one night, where she tried to stab him when he was sleeping, then called the Police and said he hit her and because of her saying that, he went to jail.  It's sad; but true, in most cases, when the Police are called in a domestic abuse case and a woman is the first to say that she was hit, the guy's go to jail. I think at times, even the Police aren't thinking that Men can be the victim's of domestic abuse. My uncle had a child with the woman and was trapped in the relationship. There were so many incidents, when she would freak out for no reason. I was...

Most if the time, therapy for me, is putting the pen to paper. Have you ever tried taking a blank piece of paper and pen and just writing all of your thoughts and feeling down on paper?  I find it to be the best therapy at times. If someone makes you happy, write down what it is that made you happy. If you feel angry about something, write down on a piece of paper who makes you angry and why.  You can always burn it after reading or shred it, if you never want anyone to know what you wrote. It's all in releasing it, getting it out of your system and let it go. Keeping a daily journal is great therapy as well. This week I was in a Poetry mood. As I was thinking of a phone conversation I had with a relative, going through marital problems, I was inspired to write this.  Here is a little poem that I wrote and I think many can relate to.  Please be respectful and remember Copyright laws and Plagiarism laws. I own the copyrights to all of my work. I li...

With losing three people very dear to me, over the past two years. I found it astonishing, how many people there are, that don't realize that grieving is a process, that takes time. Some people act as if, your supposed to instantly get over someone dying and forget about them. I try to remind myself to take a look at the source and remind myself, that they may have never lost anyone close to them. If someone hasn't experienced loss and the heart break from losing someone, then they won't understand it. Grieving is a process and it does take time. Especially when the death came as a sudden shock. Even when you know that someone is going to die and you try to prepare yourself, it still isn't easy. Your heart is still broken and it still hurts to lose someone. We all know, that we will all die eventually, though it's not something anyone really wants to think about. It will happen, because it's part of life and life will happen. Every person has a their own ...

I find it to be strange, the way one can discover themselves in a time of crisis. After my uncles death, I began tapping into myself as a writer. I bought several books on screenwriting and read everyone of them. I already understood the story concept, I just needed to learn Screenplay formatting and rules. With my son still in school, I also had to stay focused on helping him succeed. He was having a hard time coping with the grieving process and started smoking pot. He had gotten caught with it at school and was in trouble. We participated in a program, through the Center for Restorative Youth Justice. The real punishment for me as a parent, was having to sit in a room with other parents, passing the blame on the absent parent. Each parent was asked to tell their child how they felt about them being there and how it effected them personally, by getting into trouble. By the time it had come to being my turn to talk, I was very irritated, I made it very clear that I wasn't t...

I felt as if I had gone from doing 150 miles per hour, to ten. Sitting at a desk all day long, wearing a headset on my head was driving me crazy. I started working in retail when I was 15, I learned Customer Service fast. I was able to deal with a raging customer, face to face, yelling at me. I couldn't handle having someone yelling at me with a headset on my head. My daughter was looking for her first job and through an acquaintance that I had from the Casino, she was hired at a Pretzel shop  in the mall. I had gotten a surprising phone call from the manager, the owner wanted to meet me and had a job offer for me. I knew that sitting at a desk was driving me crazy, so I called and met with him. I was offered $45,000.00 per year to manage his Pizza place. I was happy, gave my notice and went to work for him right away. The first week was  fine, I was learning everything about Pizza. The second week, he changed and decided that he wanted me working from 8 am to midnight, s...

Dear Loyal Readers, I am trying to get better at posting once a week, instead of once a month. This time, my gap is due to my Mamma passing away. The past few weeks have been heart breaking, but I know she is in a better place, heaven. Most of you know, she was my grandmother but raised me from birth, she was my Mamma and my best friend. I will talk more about her in a future post. Now back to sharing my life story with you. I was feeling defeated, by having to move into low income housing. I was far away and moving in the opposite direction, from my goals. I was feeling frustrated, yet trying to accept where I was at in life. I had given up on my writing, put away my notebooks and my computer sat in a corner, unused and collecting dust. I learned the hard way quickly that there are negative people in this world, that enjoy kicking people while they are down. The boss that I had at the time, started becoming to involved in my life, to put it politely. There had been several comm...

When I took the job as a bartender, it became like therapy. I was working with other single mom's and the relationships that I had established, became very valuable to me. I was very shy and had to quickly learn to overcome my shyness, by having to talk to people. The Casino that I worked at served food, had gaming machines, a Bowling Center, live Poker and Simulcast Racing. I got to meet a variety of people, from all walks of life. My son's father was with the woman that he later married and had another child with, he quickly pushed my son aside and excluded him from his life. I was not going to let him off the hook for paying child support, it was the least that he could do for my son. I had to fight for it every step of the way, with the help of the Child Support Enforcement division. My mother had decided that I needed to start dating again and that she wanted 'grandma time'. We worked out an agreement, that she would keep my kids every Friday night and all day...

At my sons high school graduation, I did the typical mom thing, I took a walk down memory lane. The memories of all of the battles, for twelve years of getting my youngest child through school, were flooding through my mind. I was feeling very emotional and teary eyed. No more battles over homework, it was the final page to his book of  his school days. When the graduating class entered the gymnasium, I had realized, that with no plan what so ever, the dress I was wearing had almost matched the shade of blue as the graduates gowns.  It was at that moment the reality sank in, in a way I was graduating as well, from being a single mom. It was my personal moment of victory.  I decided to share my story with my readers, by doing so, if I can inspire any other single parent, then I guess I have paid it forward some way, by writing about it.  I was twenty years old when I got pregnant with my daughter and no I was not married, or with the father. I was as ...

Believe it or not; writers block can be the most frustrating, excruciating, painful thing. that any writer can experience.  There is nothing worse, than starting that first draft of anything and having writers block hit. Wham! It can happen just like that and it can last for...God only knows how long! It sucks, it sucks worse than most things in life and if you can't relate to it, you wouldn't understand. I have three posts started for this blog, that I haven't been able to finish. Not to mention a Romance book that is eating up the memory space on my computer, because I can't move on to the next page. Did I mention the six Screen Plays, that I have going on at once. Yes, it happens to me, it sucks and I hate it! Though I can't give up on myself as a writer, because it's my passion and I love it. So everyday I jump on my lap tap and tell myself, today I will will finish writing this, or I will write for my blog and then nothing! It is another love-hate ...

To celebrate my son turning 18 and graduating from high school, we decided to spend his Spring break in Seattle. With gas prices on the rise, I decided to travel by Amtrak, instead of driving. The fares were very reasonable, for round trip, reserved coach tickets at $180 each and I had no stress of driving and dealing with traffic. Our trip started off with a delay, due to our train running an hour late.  The nice thing is, knowing it was late, by signing up for text alerts. Amtrak was on target, by texting us the delay time, so we knew when to be at the station. We boarded the train in Whitefish, Montana at the Amtrak station. It was like stepping back in time, walking into the historic building, that is well maintained. When the train arrived, it was full of people and the line to board was long as well. Once on board, we were quickly directed to our seats by the attendant. Knowing that our train was leaving at night, I planned for it, by bringing throw blankets and pill...

Just across the water and a ferry ride away from Seattle, is the pristine Bainbridge Island. It's a little town and the main street, is made up of little shops, a few wine tasting rooms, and some restaurants. I started my visit, with a wine tasting tour at a wine room called Eleven . They offer an array of wine for every palate and have one wine that has pepper, yes it is peppery, yet surprisingly good. There are a few wine tasting rooms, where you can sample up to five wines in one sitting. From there I decided to visit the Ale House of Winslow, They offer sixteen micro beers on tap, it's clean, has a great atmosphere and offer live music. Though I'm not a big beer drinker, I tried a pint and it was good, yet strong. My favorite stop of my evening, was for dinner at Doc's Marina Grill. Nestled on the water front, at the corner of town, it has a great atmosphere and seating. Up to this point, the best food that I've had in the Seattle area. The view was ...